And you know what? It’s working! Yeah I still have bad days, but I’m realizing that my bad days are triggered by lack of sleep, feeling low energy, or something I can easily flip by getting out of the house for a walk, talking to a friend, working out, or switching tasks.
I've thrown out my scale and can go to weddings and eat and drink and celebrate with my friends without worrying about blowing my meal plan or sabotaging myself.
I think we all just want to feel at peace with ourselves instead of waging this constant never-ending war against the scale and the idea of “perfection” that’s imbued into our subconscious minds by society.
How to find peace with your body
Body image is almost 100% emotional.
The ironic and misleading thing is that our society places the solution to weight loss and healthy living in taking action and either DOING things (more exercise!), or removing things (less food!).
But it’s not about actions at all. Finding your version of healthy is not about what you eat or how often you work out.
Because you can lose 100 pounds and still feel like crap about your body. You can workout for 2 hours a day and still be unhealthy.
Finding peace with your body and developing a positive and healthy relationship with food is all about your MINDSET, and learning how to take ownership of your emotions.
Flipping your mindset is easier said than done, and actions still help. Here are some ways:
1. MAKE THE CHOICE that you’re done with feeling like crap about your body.
Yup, how we feel is in our control, and we’re never really trapped.
Think about it. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, why? You probably need to take something off your plate or ask for help.
If you’re feeling guilty, did you actually do something morally or legally wrong? Probably not.
2. Trash the scale.
Seriously. Unless you're trying to lose weight for health reasons and need to check in with yourself every week or month to hold yourself accountable without attaching emotions to the number, you don't need the damn thing.
Put it this way: if you’re a recovering alcoholic, you probably wouldn’t walk into a bar, right? So if you’re addicted to the scale, you need to get it out of your life.
3. Be very aware of the messages you’re surrounding yourself with, both in real life and online.
Unfollow everyone on social media who has a negative effect on your energy. You might not even notice it...but if you’re scrolling throuh your Instagram or Facebook feed and feel a pang of jealousy, comparison, or start to judge or over-analyze your own choices and behaviors, RED FLAG!
If you have any toxic relationships, start spending less time with those people and find a community that shares your values.
4. Surround yourself with positivity and support.
The internet is THE BEST for this! There are lots of positive health and fitness communities out there you can connect with via social media, like Tone It Up, Blogilates, or Kayla Itsines, BUT be really careful that you don't become obsessed or start comparing yourself in a negative way.
I sometimes find that Instagram triggers my feelings of inadequacy, so I'm careful with who I follow (see #3) and have opened a private community on Facebook called Fit For Life for women who want to connect with like-minded soul sisters! Click here if you want to join us, just check the "Fit For Life" box and I'll add you to our group!
5. If you’re struggling with a negative relationship or disordered feelings about food, be careful with super structured or strict nutrition plans or rules.
Yes, this includes the 21 Day Fix, Paleo, Veganism, Whole30 the Tone It Up nutrition plan, or any other “plan” that involves restricting certain foods or may trigger you to feel guilty if you “slip up.” Work with a dietician or nutritionist or counselor if you need to, or just listen to your body and make your own rules!
(This is just my personal opinion...I'm not an RD or trained nutrition pro so take it or leave it!)
6. Add more strength training and weight lifting into your workout routine!
This has been HUGE for me. More posts coming :) Lifting heavy weights will help you boost your metabolism, allow you to eat more food (yay!), and re-shape your body.
Focus on quality of workouts over quantity. You don't need to exercise more than 30 minutes a day to get the benefits!
7. Most importantly, GET HELP.
If you’re constantly thinking about food, workouts or your body and it’s taking up the majority of your day or preventing you from fully enjoying social situations, this isn’t healthy...but you aren’t broken. You’re totally normal and you aren’t alone, you just need someone to hold space for you to process your shiz. Have an honest conversation with a friend or relative you trust, and seek out professional support if you feel like you need it, whether that’s working with a therapist, counselor, or coach.
Wanna chat? I'm always here :)
xo Anna
p.s. Here are some books and blogs that have really helped me along my own journey: