Anna Maria Locke

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DIY lace trimmed veil

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As you can see by the colors of the leaves in that photo, this week's crafty tutorial is looooong overdue: my DIY lace trimmed veil!

Veils are ridiculously overpriced at bridal boutiques considering that tulle is less than $2 a yard, so I knew from the beginning of wedding planning that I wanted to make my own. After doing a bit of research, I discovered that it's easier than it looks!

Here are the three tutorials that I found most useful (thanks to my friend Laurie for sharing):
The first thing you need to do is choose a style and length. I knew I wanted a single layer (no "blusher" aka the part that goes over your face), fingertip length, and minimal poof-factor.

Supplies I used:
  • 2 yards of 108" wide ivory tulle from JoAnn's (I bought way more than that and it ended up trying to eat me when I unrolled it...you actually don't need that much tulle!)
  • wide metal bridal comb from JoAnn's (use a coupon)
  • needle and white thread
  • rotary cutter and cutting board, or fabric scissors
  • approx. 3-4 yards of wide Alencon lace trim from Etsy 

Here's a close up of the gorgeous lace I got. I lucked out with an amazing per-yard deal, so of course I bought the entire roll. Still deciding what to do with the leftovers...

Sidenote: I was afraid the lace would clash with my dress since the lace is extremely yellowed ivory, my dress was a different ivory, and the lace trim on the dress was white, but it looked fine! You don't have to matchy-match everything.
(That may have sounded type-A but just wait until you're planning a wedding. The subtle differences between white and ivory take on SUCH MEANING and it's scary.)

Step 1: Cut your tulle in the size and shape you want. 
This was the most difficult step for me, because I accidentally bought WAY too much tulle.
I ended up with a half circle shape, 60" along the straight edge by 45" to the widest point (the dimensions are labeled in white in the picture, kind of camouflaged by my floral rug). To cut the shape, the tulle was folded along the 45" line and I cut an arc through the double layers to make sure both sides were even. Then I shaped the top and sides until the curves lay the way I wanted when I draped the tulle from my head.
-If you want a double layered veil, you'll cut a circle or oval shape and sew your comb in the center.
-Refer to the links I shared above to see the lengths you need to reach a certain look. Fintertip veils are 40-45" long.
-Tulle is cheap, so don't be afraid to do some trial-and-error guessing! Cut a shape, drape it over your head, trim if it's not laying in the right way. This one was my second attempt!

Step 2: With your tulle laying on a flat surface such as a clean floor, pin your lace around the edges.
You might have to cut slits or darts in the lace to curve it around the corners.

Step 3: Thread your needle and sew the lace on!
In the above picture you can see that I lined the lace up so that the edge of the tulle came almost to the bottom of the lace trim. I didn't use any fancy stitch, just loosely tacked the lace on. And yes, it takes a long time...turn on a movie! Originally I was going to sew on the top AND bottom of the trim for extra stability but let's face it, that would have been way too much effort. You can apparently buy clear thread so your stitches don't show at all, but I was sick of buying just "one more thing" for the wedding. White thread isn't noticeable, even on ivory lace.

Step 4: Gather the top of your veil by sewing a strip of large straight stitches in the middle of the flat edge
(see awesome illustrated diagram above Step 1 for where the comb goes)
I gathered about a 10" strip because I wanted my veil to lay flat. If you want a poofy veil, gather more of the edge and you can even cut it wider than 60".
You want the length of the gather to equal the width of your comb.

 Step 5: Sew your comb onto the gathered edge.
Orient the veil so that the RIGHT side (side with the lace edge) is FACING the inner curved side of the comb. (So in the above picture, the right side is laying face down on the surface, spread out behind the comb). This way, you can flip the veil over the comb so the veil covers the sewn part before you stick it in your hair, and the lace will be facing outwards. Kind of confusing, but it makes sense when you're playing with it.
To sew on the comb, I just wrapped the thread around and around to make sure it was secured.

And that's it!
  
Here's the final product right after I finished it. Notice how the bottom part (45" from comb to bottom) actually goes BELOW my fingertips. Also, the lace was pretty heavy and dragged the veil down. If you're going for the poofy ethereal look you should use more layers of tulle, gather more of it, and edge it with ribbon, lighter weight lace (like Chantilly) or save yourself some effort and don't edge it at all! Tulle won't fray.

So if you're looking for ways to trim costs while wedding planning I highly recommend trying to make your own veil or headpiece. It's relatively quick as far as DIY projects go (I made mine in one afternoon) and no one will be able to tell if it's not perfect! Plus you will have created a beautiful family heirloom that can be passed down to future brides!

I'll close this post with a few more action shots of our wedding. Wearing a veil definitely made me feel like a little girl playing dress-up, it was kind of surreal and weird.
Also, looking at these photos makes me really miss seeing leaves on the trees...





Do you think you'd attempt making your own veil?

name changing part 2 (the DMV)

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(Us on the plane headed to Mexico for our honeymoon last year. The literal buttcrack of dawn is shining on Ben's face.)

After my trip to the social security office last month, my new SS card arrived in the mail in less than a week. It still has my wrong middle name on it, but I'm going to worry about that later.

Today I set out to accomplish step 2 of the name change ordeal: getting a new driver's license. To make matters more complicated, my parents decided that since I'm married now and officially an adult, it was time to give me the title to the Ford Focus I've been driving since high school. (Just in time for its last legs.) So I had to officially transfer the title over to myself and get a new registration and license plates in addition to changing the info on my license. To make matters less complicated, I fortuitously procrastinated on the name change just long enough that it's time for me to renew my license anyway, so I felt I was lucky to be able to accomplish a triple whammy with only one trip to the dreaded DMV.

A perk to being underemployed is being able to go to the DMV in the morning on a random weekday. I looked up the nearest facility to me, which is about a 20 minute drive away. Apparently there are less driver services facilities in Chicago than there are Social Security offices, but I guess it's fun to explore a new area of town. So I cleaned the mountain of snow off my car and set off to discover the BIGGEST FREAKING DMV office EVER. It was like a warehouse-sized labyrinth of lines, counters, booths, people, oh my God. And it was like 78 degrees which is 14 degrees hotter than I keep our apartment because we're too broke for warmth, so I was immediately parched in my long underwear, two sweaters, and puffy coat. Luckily the lines moved pretty quickly and I made it through the FOUR lines/counters/stations it took to transfer the title, then headed to a different section of the building to deal with my license.

First I had to visit the line at the "check in" counter to get a number and verify that I had the necessary documents, then luckily my number was immediately called to the next counter where an extremely chatty Asian man entered my information and taught me about the etymology of Dutch names (apparently having the "Van" prefix means you are descended from the upper class, sweet!), how Europeans never used to have last names, how Asian cultures don't use middle names, and how his co-worker's son just moved to Davenport (he saw Rock Island on my marriage license). Then I moved to the cashier counter where I paid $30 to renew my license (I got to skip the name change fee because I took care of it at the same time, yay!), on to the pre-photo counter where a lady took my old license away, and then FINALLY got my new picture taken. I'm kind of sad my old license is gone because I loved the picture, but oh well.

So I was in and out in a little over an hour, and now I'm officially Anna Vandervlugt Locke. I want to go by Anna Locke socially but I couldn't eliminate the Vandervlugt. Just thinking about it made me feel really shaken up and panicky. I am not sure how I'll feel about my decision 10 or 20 or 30 years from now but right now, this was the way to go for me. My family is pretty conservative and I've had to explain myself a couple times but you know what? It's 2013, and we can make a choice. Plus, your legal documents have to match but other than that you can be known as any name you want, and I like being able to be Anna Locke without completely giving up the previous identity I've held for the past 25 years.

(I decided to omit the middle name/initial completely on my license just to keep it simpler. I think I'll omit the M on everything else I change too to avoid confusion, and also to buy myself more time before I have to go back to the SS office to correct my card that says Marie when I'm really a Maria.)

So in summary, here are my tips for changing your name on your license in Illinois:
-Go on a weekday morning, if you can!
-You need 2 documents that verify the new name, so get your SS card first (I used SS card and marriage license)
-If you have a new address you need 2 documents to prove that too. I used my new car registration and a pay stub. I also brought our lease just in case.
-If you can, coordinate your trip so it lines up with renewing your license. You'll save the name change fee!
-Renewing and name changing fees are $30 each.
-Transferring a title/renewing registration/getting new license plates is very expensive (almost $200). If you're just changing your name on the title/registration it's only $18.
-They don't take VISA cards (whyyy?), so bring your checkbook and cash if you carry VISA!!
-Here's the link for changing your name on title/registration http://www.cyberdriveillinois.com/departments/vehicles/title_and_registration/corrected.html
-Here's info for changing your name and address https://www.ilsos.gov/addrchange/
-Here's the list of documents you need to update your drivers license http://www.cyberdriveillinois.com/publications/pdf_publications/dsd_x173.pdf

And here are a few articles that were EXTREMELY helpful to me in the whole name change decision process!



I hope you've been entertained and have found my experiences useful if you're engaged! I'm probably not going to share the rest of the name change journey since I can do most of it online. Hopefully I don't forget anything. Oh the joys of being a female...as if society needed to make it even more complicated.





friday adventures and name changing

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Happy Friday!
 
 
I made a new chunky cowl! I super like it.
Also, I babysit for an extremely talented hair stylist who gave me a trim and blowout last night after she came home! Best gig ever.
 
So, this has been quite the eventful day for me.
Go past the following essay on name changing to get to the best hummus recipe ever.
 
Ben and I have been married for four months now and I've been procrastinating on the whole name-change thing. Lots of reasons, mainly laziness and a little because I'm kind of freaked out with the change concept.
 
When you're engaged, you're suddenly made aware of the drama behind the patriarchal last name tradition, and the choices seem endless. Hyphenate? Keep maiden name? Change? Change socially only? Make maiden name middle name? Merge last names into something completely new? Make husband take maiden name (is it weird that this is not culturally acceptable)? Also, changing your name on every single document, account, card, and address in your life is a big undertaking and let's face it-- a complete identity crisis.
 
My maiden name is Vandervlugt, because my dad was born and raised in the Netherlands. Obviously Dutch culture has been a huge part of my life, and being the only Anna Vandervlugt in North America (that Google is aware of, anyway) is pretty awesome. However, I do really like Ben's last name and think it's important for us to share it as a new family unit, plus he's the last male carrier in his immediate family. On top of that, I always knew Ben wanted me to take his last name and I have no problem with that.
 
In conclusion, I decided a while ago that I'd take Ben's last name but not delete my maiden name. In other words, I'd have two "legal" unhyphenated last names. That way, I could slowly transition into being Anna Locke socially but still be Anna Vandervlugt professionally if I wanted. Yes ladies, you CAN do this!
 
My drivers license expires on my birthday in two months, so this week I decided to take the plunge and undertake the process so I only have to make one trip to the DMV (smart, right??) The first thing you have to change is your name on your Social Security card and I read somewhere that 9 am on Friday is the best time to do that in terms of the line, so this morning I took an official copy of our marriage license, every ID I could find, the Social Security application from here, and hit the icy streets of Chicago in search of the nearest SSA office.
 
After waiting for only 15 minutes, my ticket number was called and I went to the counter with all my documents. At this point, you need to know that my middle name has been Maria my entire life...until the lady at the counter told me I've been on file with the government as Anna Marie since 1988. Whaaaa????! Cue huge confusion. So now my name is Anna Marie alias Maria Vandervlugt Locke.
I called my mom and she verified that my birth certificate does say Maria and some Social Security person in 1988 made a mistake that will take another trip to the office with birth certificate to correct. Sigh. I might just let it go since it hasn't been an issue for 25 years...
 
So that was a fun adventure. If you've read this far and if you're a hummus fan, I'll reward you now with a life changing discovery!
You know how Sabra hummus has that amazing smooth texture that is impossible to re-create if you've ever tried to make hummus at home? And also, you know how Sabra is always like $3 more expensive per tiny little tub than the other inferior hummus brands?
 
The DIY secret to that lucious creamy consistency is to PEEL THE CHICKPEAS.
 
(image from Smitten Kitchen)
 
It takes about 10 minutes to peel a can, but it's well worth the time to achieve amazingly smooth hummus for less than a dollar. I discovered this technique via Deb at Smitten Kitchen (click link to get the recipe) and it has rocked my world.
 
So make hummus and have a great weekend!
I'll keep you updated re: the journey to becoming Mrs. Locke.